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An Introvert’s Guide to Speaking to Strangers
8 Ways to get past the awkwardness
Growing up, I much preferred exploring the depths of Middle Earth under my warm, secure doona covers than speaking to people I knew. Add to that I was shy and an introvert. It was embarrassing to feel my face heat up, beet red when people turned their attention to me. There was no way I’d willingly go up to a stranger and start a conversation. That’d be too damn awkward.
And it’s not just me as a child. I’ve noticed at events and waiting rooms, parks, and stores: many adults don’t feel comfortable speaking to strangers. We’d rather ignore each other. Mind our own business. Even when inside we’re dying to ask a question, make a comment, or help.
What holds you back from speaking to strangers?
You’re an introvert too. Also, perhaps it doesn’t seem socially acceptable. You don’t feel safe. You don’t like talking to people you don’t know. I mean, why do you need to torture yourself making small talk with strangers when you‘ve got a phone full of numbers.
Well over the years, I’ve realized the value in speaking to strangers. I forced myself to practice repeatedly, especially when I lived overseas a couple of times on my own.
