Hey John, thanks so much for sharing such deep, personal, honest thoughts and experiences. You are a wonderful writer, with so much depth and such a vivid way of describing things. I felt so much for you while I was reading this and I really appreciate how much detail you share about your life, and depression.
It is courageous of you to share. Not many people talk about depression, and I agree with what you say, people are attracted to ‘emotionally reliable’ people.
Many people don’t want to know about it, don’t know how to deal with it. But I feel like it’s a catch 22: if people don’t talk about it, we don’t know what it’s like, we can’t possibly understand it, and it’s hard to really be there for someone in the way they need. I think it’s awesome that you’re changing this pattern.
I don’t know too much about depression apart from a friend who has it — and also working with a not-for-profit that brought practitioners together to collaborate and learn ways to better help people struggling with their mental health.
My friend had depression for more than 10 years, but didn’t realize. For years, she didn’t leave her bedroom, other than go to the bathroom. She didn’t realize there was any other life until this year: she found rockclimbing and hasn’t had to take her meds ever since. Meditation helps her too.
A lot of the time we can think ourselves out of our state of mind. But from what little I know about depression, it must be incredibly hard to get out if your mind is resisting.
John you obviously have a strong awareness of yourself and situations. It’s awesome that you found Daisy, and it sounds like your list is working well. I’m curious:
Which item on the list do you like the least?
You mention relationships are tough. How do you find connecting with people online compared to in person?
What have you done lately that you’re proud of — and you’d never imagined you could have done 5 years ago?
What advice do you have for anyone who wants to help someone with depression? (Noted that this is not helpful: “it reminds me of how I felt when I _______”)
I look forward to your reply John! :)