Sonia, such a helpful piece. It can feel awkward knowing what to say and how to help someone who's suffering. It's so true we might feel the need to cheer them up, be positive and all that. But that's the last thing we want to hear when we're feeling shit.

What someone did for me that I found touching and helped me when I was down recently was tell me the essence of who I am hasn't changed. That I'm one of the good ones. Things happen but that doesn't take away from the person I am.

What I've realized is it's ok not to be ok. To give ourselves and others the space for that is enough without trying to 'fix' things or tell them it'll be ok.

Sonia, you've given wonderful, real, practical ways to truly be there for others. I've gotten so much from this and have bookmarked it.

I especially loved this line:

"‘feeling into’. It’s not your job to make it better, or show the silver lining. Your job is to be a participating witness to someone’s unravelling."

Thank you for sharing what you're going through. It's an honor. Thinking of you with love hun. xo