I used to write, sit back, and hope readers would find my writing.
I intentionally chose reputable publications with good-sized audiences.
It’s up to them to spread the word for us writers, I thought.
If we’re not getting read, they’re not doing their damn job!
Relying on other people to get me where I want to be.
Blaming other people for why I’m not where I want to be.
Feeling frustrated, dejected, and hopeless about this writing gig I so wanted to make work. This gig that takes countless hours that would amount to a ridiculous per hourly rate…
Over the past year, in particular, I’ve realized how different men and women are in how we deal with struggles.
I’ve spent more time on the phone speaking to friends than ever. The guys in my life went into hibernation. They shut down emotionally. The ones still working suddenly got busier than usual with work.
How do we reach our men when they don’t tell us what’s going on with them?
For many of us women, we believe — we know — talking is great therapy. Opening up is good. Why the heck can’t we get our men to understand…
Have you ever read about a service that’s “the best in town”? Does the business use “state-of-the-art equipment”? And how about “great customer service”?
These terms are flung around a lot online.
In the past few years, I’ve written website content for at least 10 mechanics, five gardeners, and three remedial massage therapists. What they offer may differ slightly, but the gist of it is similar.
Mechanics usually offer major and minor servicing, logbook servicing, wheel and tire alignment, and minor repairs. They may or may not offer car loans.
Gardeners usually offer hedging and pruning, lawn mowing, general maintenance…
I notice whenever I go out with my young daughter to a store, a cafe, or a park, strangers are more likely to begin a conversation than if I’m alone. If you have a dog, you might have noticed that too…
Yet when you’re alone, how often do you initiate conversations with strangers when you’re out for a walk? When you’re buying groceries? When you’re at a party or a networking event?
What holds you back from speaking to strangers?
Perhaps you feel it doesn’t seem necessary. You’re not looking for new friends. You don’t want the opposite sex to…
What emails do you look forward to opening each week?
As a creative, an entrepreneur— headlines like these may catch your attention:
Can you start a podcast with no following?
What’s the best site to start a blog for free?
How do I find high-paying coaching clients?
How do I optimize my blog for SEO?
What do you need to record a podcast at home?
On the other hand, consider your reaction to emails from unknown companies telling you there’s a “FREE Video AUDIT”, “First page result on Google”, or “Are you the right person to send this FREE report…
I’d done this climb many times. But for some reason today, it didn’t feel right. felt uneasy and uncomfortable. I couldn’t find the right handholds. My feet didn’t feel secure. My arms were tired. “I don’t want to fall” was the mantra in my mind. And to make it all worse, panic had made its way in and decided to stay, like a visitor who doesn’t get the hint it’s time to go home.
And then it happened…the event every lead climber trains for so it doesn’t happen — falling with your foot behind the rope. Because what happens is…
He’s been sending me emails for more than half a decade. I don’t even remember what led me to subscribe.
He sends around 3 emails a week. I open around 1 in 20. I even have a folder for his emails, labeled ‘Bob’ though I can’t keep up with filing them, so they pile up in my inbox.
Are you subscribed to anyone whose emails you keep, even when you don’t open them? Perhaps you, like me, feel that writers like Bob share so much value, that one day when you need their expertise, you’ll browse through their emails…
In the largest in-depth interview study ever done of people in long-term relationships, 700 elders were interviewed for a book.
“For a good marriage, the elders overwhelmingly tell us to ‘talk, talk, talk.’ They believe most marital problems can be solved through open communication, and conversely, many whose marriages dissolved blamed lack of communication.”
This is what Cornell gerontologist Karl Pillemer discovered in the Cornell Marriage Advice Project.
Wonderful advice. Not uncommon. But what I’ve discovered in my 14-year relationship is that the common blanket advice, to communicate, isn’t enough. We need more specific ways to improve.
I used to…